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Parenting in the Face of an Abusive Home Situation

  There is no doubt that exposure to domestic violence is detrimental to children’s emotional well-being, causing or significantly contributing to development of symptoms of anxiety, PTSD, behavioral problems, anger/aggression, and many other emotional issues. If you would like to learn more about this topic, please read my research-based article, Domestic Violence and Children. Many times in my clinical practice, I have talked to parents whose children have significant anger issues, misbehave in school, or withdraw from others. Their parents or caretakers request a psychological evaluation in hopes to discover what causes these issues and how…

Improving Your Sleep and Reducing PTSD Related Sleep Disturbances

Sleep disturbances, such difficulty falling asleep, nightmares, or waking up throughout the night are some of the most common, persistent, and disturbing symptoms of posttraumatic stress disorder (PTSD). Modern research (Philbert, Pichat, Beeské, Decobert, Belzung, Griebel (2011), clearly shows that an acute inescapable stress exposure may cause long-lasting alterations in sleep patterns and behavior. (1) In addition, posttraumatic nightmares are reported by up to 70% of individuals suffering from PTSD. (2)  An occurrence of a traumatic event leads to increased stimulation of your autonomic nervous system which causes you to be in a chronically high levels of arousal, thus…

Coping With Overwhelming Anger

Anger is a common, signal emotion that includes everything from just being mildly irritated to being resentful, furious, and enraged. Anger is natural, normal part of you. It is a signal letting you know that there is danger and that your standards, values, or even your life have been violated by someone else or even by you. Anger gives you information and tells you to protect yourself. However, anger can become a very disabling emotion that is difficult to control. Unfortunately, many of my clients struggle with anger that is associated with trauma. This level of anger often causes outbursts…

Dealing With Triggers – Journal Exercise

A trigger is typically an event that enters your present mind, stimulates your adrenal glands, reminds you of what happened in the past, and activates traumatic memories along with a storm of emotions associated with them. This is typically not a pleasant experience and can be rather frightening. You may experience flashbacks, anxiety, panic, fear, anger, rage, confusion, or dissociation. When working with my clients, I find that journaling in itself is very helpful and healing for many. Understanding your triggers by identifying and listing them in your journal, is a first step to help you get some sense of…

Distorted Beliefs That Stand in The Way of Your Healing

What are beliefs? They are what you perceive to be true or think is true. Your beliefs and how you think about yourself, other people, and your environment have a great impact on your behavior, actions, and choices you make in life.  It is common for trauma survivors to hold distorted beliefs that were formed as a result of their trauma exposure. These beliefs are typically related to their needs for safety, trust, control, esteem, and intimacy. Below is the list of some of the common distorted beliefs that reinforce negative thinking process and may be detrimental for any relationships…